Published on November 12, 2012 | by Carleanne O'Donoghue0
How to make new friendsNobody can deny that they would like a few more friends.
Whether you would like to be so popular you walk around with an entourage of about 50 on a daily basis, or you would just like to know you have always got somebody to go down the SU with – a few more friends would not go amiss.
So, how do you go about it without making yourself look desperate or weird? Nobody is going to want to befriend a loser who sits in a corner waiting for people to talk to them.
To be successful you have to be open-minded, be relatively comfortable talking to strangers as well as easy going.
Places to meet new people
Firstly, change the place you study or work. If you’re a keen library-goer then great. Make yourself look approachable when you see somebody who looks like they need help.
People are more likely to suggest popping for a quick drink on a study break if you’re working in the evening. Even the canteen can be a good place to work and get to know people.
“I work in the library at college a lot and during the day I usually meet about 10 or 12 new people”- Ahmed Mouch
If you do choose the library as your new social hub, then make sure you consider others and meet people in the group zone rather than the silent section. An MA student working late on their research project is not going to be very forthcoming.
Ahmed Mouch, 24, BA Interior Design student at Chelsea College of Art and Design said: “I work in the library at college a lot and during the day I usually meet about 10 or 12 new people, just by making myself look like I’m willing to lend a hand.
“It’s usually a fresher that needs a hand and are too embarrassed to ask somebody at the desk– I guess I tell myself that I was one of them once and I enjoy meeting people.
“I’ve ended up on a few nights out as a result of these spontaneous meet and greets.”
Another way to meet new people is to join societies or visit a different college bar. Not only are you more likely to share the same interests with the people you meet because you are all UAL students, you also get a nice change of scenery and the same bar prices.
As far as societies go, UAL offer a lot of them, ranging from sports to drama – they’re not only for first years, although its probably best you join at the beginning of the year.
Remember to SMILE. Nobody likes the look of a grumpy art student in the morning, no matter how bad the weather is or how much you regret taking off that extra layer before you left the house. Just keep that friendly smile plastered on.
And gents – holding the door is always a good way to spark up conversation and only requires a strong arm.
If you play an instrument, why not practice in your living room? You never know, you might initiate a flat singsong. That being said, doing this in the early hours of the morning, or when deadlines are looming will make everyone in your flat hate you.
“I play the guitar too so I often sit and strum a tune which will encourage everybody into my room where we’d usually end up watching a film or something.” –Dominic Martin
Dominic Martin, 17, a Graphic and Media Design student at LCC thought of a great way of making friends in his student halls: “I decided to start leaving my door open. I live in halls of residence in a self-contained flat so I felt quite safe doing so.
“I play the guitar too so I often sit and strum a tune which would encourage everybody into my room where we’d usually end up watching a film or something.”
22-year-old LCF Fashion Student, Paul Davies, remembers his embarrassing attempt at making friends during his first year: “I went out of my way to literally speak to everybody I passed.
“Regardless of whether I was in the canteen, the hall or the library everybody got a smile, a wave or a hello. Looking back now I think I must have looked like a right twat.
“I was in the library once and I looked over to the guy sitting next to me, not only was he hot, he was on his own which I took to mean that he would enjoy me sparking up a conversation, it turns out he was a complete loner and as soon as I said hello to him he turned a funny shade of white.
“He sort of ignored me and moved away so after that I stopped trying and just let friendship groups form naturally.”
So you’ve heard some tips and the stories, good and bad. New friends are just around the corner, so what are you waiting for?